My plans to go 15 November to the Caribbean have been more or less abandoned. 20/10/2016

I had a call from my friend.Good,she said,you will have time to date. I joined an online dating agency in your name.The photo you like.What???? And she did.How is it going,you may ask. So far so bad,in fact pretty horrendous. Why? Well, one man hates me,one man loves me and there are so many others that I do not know where to start separating the chaff from the grain.And all that in the first twenty four hours.Twelve days later I have not had the time to go through every profile. I have accidentally pressed something requesting many men to send me their photo,had no idea I did it,until one after another at least 14 photographs appeared on the screen.I have been a widow now for six and a half years.I live alone.I have not been on a date since my husband passed away.Oh,I have been asked. Many times.And every time even if the nicest,the most eligible man asks me out, I have a million and one excuses why to say NO, never do I find a reason to say YES. Saturday 8th October was to be the day of rest, having worked all week on my taxes and various other accounts.And any-one who prepares their own tax return knows how important it is never to make a mistake, to check and double check everything. Two heads are always better than one, because if a mistake is made by one person,the other spots it easier. But as I am now alone I do everything by myself.So having had the most exhausting week, Saturday 8th October was to be the day of total relaxation, I read newspapers,did some washing,ironing and sat for a while with my lovely little Toshiba.And there all my troubles began.I had an e-mail,an offer from a dating agency pleading with me to take up three days free VIP dating.They have been writing to me for good two,three years and I would always decline and erase their e-mail as I erase all unsolicited-emails.But as I had already finished with the Telegraph and was half way through the Mail and the evening was long,I pressed YES.And with the speed of lightning I filled in answers to numerous questions abut my likes, dislikes,what I wanted in a man and some details about myself,of course.And suddenly there were countless details of men on the screen,some with photos, some without.And there was a SMILE. Now those of you who have taken advantage of this kind of dating know that the smile may be reciprocated or may not.I reciprocated. He was an ex diplomat,wanted to talk.I would have preferred to communicate by e-mails for a while but he wanted to talk so I phoned him.As we both speak Russian,I said zdravstvuj,jokingly [for those not in the know zdravstvuj means hello].He did not seem to appreciate my sense of humour.He was a math graduate and pre - diplomacy a uni lecturer,I said a 10 year old son of my nephew was considered to be a mathematical genius,the teacher hasn't even finished writing on the blackboard and Matt knows the answer.And sometimes he would correct the teacher when she makes a mistake,she,of course was not happy about a little boy showing her up in front of the whole classroom.The diplomat said - he is not well brought up.I said he is VERY well brought up.But she is the grown up,he is just a little boy, eager to learn and to please, his IQ up in the stratosphere and a gift like his should be nurtured and not be frowned upon.The diplomat said angrily something along the line of - I am not going to have you argue with me,I am the educator,not you - and put the phone down on me. Now who behaves like that?